#615
Woojin Yang
July.7.2010
How Your Birth Order
Influences Your Life Adjustment(Chose 2nd question)
I think it's not applied to my family. Author mentioned that the oldest children have a tendency to have more responsibilities than other siblings and see other guys as less capable than them. Partially I agree because the Oldest Asian children have a great responsibility to take care of their families when there are no parents around them. But I don't agree in the saying that the oldest children see other guys as less capable. I believe that every people has a specific talent when they are born. That is I believe every person has a potential to accomplish something they want to do. So In this point of view, I can't see other guys as less capable than me. And another thing is that the story claimed youngest children is dependent to other people such as their older siblings or their parents, I also disagree with that insist. Because my younger sister is really independent and does her own work with no help. It's true we need help when we face difficulties, but she just wants to do her own until she can't do anything without someone's help.
Also I disagree that the oldest children serve as a barrier between their parents and younger siblings. I think the oldest children can be a way to communicate between their parents and other siblings. But I agree some parts that the author mentioned in this story. Author mentioned
that the parents have a tendency to expect their oldest children to be more responsible to their family and be capable of all things that parents can get advantages. This explains exactly what Asian oldest children thinking about birth order and the way they are looking at the world. But I think Asian oldest children may feel a lot of pressure to do well and meet their parent's expectations from surroundings. The reason why Asian people, especially Eastern Asian people think like this way is that we thought Confucianism is the best idea and followed what Confucianism taught. This idea influences greatly to many modern Asian families including my family ,although it faded since Western culture flowed . But still Asian oldest children have more responsibilities than those from other continents. In this viewpoint I think it can be accurate partially for our family.
#615
ReplyDeleteSangJun Han
July.7.2010
2. Is Forer's discussion of birth order accurate or inaccurate for the children in your family? Explain.
I agree Forer's opinion almost. But no theory cannot exactly apply to all cases. In my family, some discussions(of Forer's) are correct but others are not be applied. I, exactly saying 'we', am a twins. I have a identical twin brother and I'm older than him about 1 minute. So It is not meaningful to distinguish who is more mature physically. But there is scial order for brothers. For we are identical twins, Forer's many theorys are not applied to our family. First of all, it can be centain, parents always treat us by same way. They love us as same, advice us as same, scold us as same, although of course it's case by case. So most of
author's discussion about parents' attitude to children is inaccurate for us. But in part of 'How children see themselves and others' is somewhat accurate. Because when I read this passage, I was little surprised that it's like what I'm thinking usually. Although we are twins, I cosider my younger brother as more insufficient than me. Of course I admit my brother's abillity very well but I think like that unconsiously. So Forer's theory : older brother tends to believe that " I can do many things better than my siblings can" is correct. I also tend to expect other people to be relatively less capable. And I am very dissapoint to less capabale than any other in job i think important. But my younger brother thinks like me maybe, so it can be little different.